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Comment on Cheating wife. Kicked her out.. what to do? by Song

Song — Thu, 20 May 2010 08:46:59 +0000

I am dealing with the same thing. I would feel happy for the entire day and go home alone and feel angry.

I just tell myself that time will heal my wounded heart. I tell myself and I ask the Lord to help me to forgive because it is the only way I can move one, by forgiving.

I have separated from my husband, and like you, cannot see myself returning, but I am still faithful. I believe God will reward my faithfulness and will continue to keep me from going mad.

It is a horrible thing when sexually immoral people get married. They know they are promiscuous, yet they settle down with someone anyway. I think that is one of the most wicked things you can do to another person.

I would suggest that you get close to God. Get to know Him as he was Jesus Christ in the flesh. I hold on to His Words and this has kept me. It has been 11 months and it is much better than it was in the first six months. At least I can now sleep through the night.

I won’t set a time for myself. I just hope the anger subsides soon. I hope the same for you.
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Comment on Cheating wife. Kicked her out.. what to do? by Katrina J

Katrina J — Thu, 20 May 2010 08:37:59 +0000

Stop talking about it, the more you think about it and talk about it the more youre gonna hurt and the more youre gonna put effort into seeing her suffer, just try and do other things get out more get over her the best way, if you catch yourself thinking about her then dont, try joining a healthclub and let out your fustrations that way. or join a church. go out to a nite-club and date who ever wants to date you so you can just get over her, whatever you need to do just do it!!
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Comment on Cheating wife. Kicked her out.. what to do? by monica S

monica S — Thu, 20 May 2010 07:52:59 +0000

i know how you feel,my ex cheated on me several times,tried to work it out but he continued,sorry but move on.i am now marriade again after 4 years of divorce.its not an easy road,but you will find a new love again.i recommend couseling,for your healing.a pastor is more recommended.i got plenty of it.i am now much more healed.i have a husband who does not cheat.no it is not your fault no excuse for what she did.people cheat for many different reasons,when you go into counceling they will explain more.pray for healing in your life.
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Comment on Cheating wife. Kicked her out.. what to do? by nmbr1mom2008

nmbr1mom2008 — Thu, 20 May 2010 07:08:59 +0000

Its her fault she did it. It takes time to get over something like that but you kicking her out was the right thing for you. In time it will get better and eventually you will find the right one, your soul mate. Good luck.
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Comment on Cheating wife. Kicked her out.. what to do? by Amy F

Amy F — Thu, 20 May 2010 06:21:59 +0000

She’s not good enough for you! You will get over it with time and meet someone new that respects you more. It’s totally not your fault, she’s the one with the problem! It just takes time and keeping your mind off it, catch up with friends, pick up some new hobbies, whatever you need to do to occupy yourself and get over it! She sounds like she’s got serious problems…
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Comment on Cheating wife. Kicked her out.. what to do? by Big Man

Big Man — Thu, 20 May 2010 06:13:59 +0000

Stay busy…that helps a lot. When the mind has nothing else to think about and no one is around it becomes the devils work shop…My mother always said an idle mind is the devils work shop, and eventually you will get better.

Trust me she will run back to you…she will figure out how good she had it and blame at your door step. When this happens slam it shut and slam it hard.
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Comment on Can someone please give me advice on how to deal with a "MONSTER IN LAW? by Star

Star — Thu, 20 May 2010 05:53:59 +0000

You can never ignore it. The best thing that you can do is speak up. If your husband doesn’t do it , then you do it . But do it nicely. If she disrespects you then let her know you don’t need her opinion and what matters is your husband -and that’s it. If she feels she needs to know everything , let her know you ain’t married to her. So , These things are so simple but the MONSTER IN LAW is always the one that makes the relationship hard. I feel if you show respect and answer truthfully with kindness. She will eventually get her self tired at the end.
Never know , it might be a wake up call for her (knowing you ain’t putting up with her interference). But , make sure your always in control when it comes to the conversation.
Have a good day .
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Comment on Cheating wife. Kicked her out.. what to do? by AnJi

AnJi — Thu, 20 May 2010 05:42:59 +0000

You deserve better than a chronic cheater….

Believe in yourself and know that time will heal this.
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Comment on Cheating wife. Kicked her out.. what to do? by Just Married

Just Married — Thu, 20 May 2010 05:19:59 +0000

File for divorce and make it final . Then close the book on it and don't look back.
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Comment on Can someone please give me advice on how to deal with a "MONSTER IN LAW? by April Golden

April Golden — Thu, 20 May 2010 05:17:59 +0000

I don’t answer many of these anymore, but since I counsel, and have been in your place as well, hopefully this will help.

First, yes you ignore this, hon.

She can’t be this way in your and his presence unless your husband allows it, and she is HIS problem, and the fix is HIS.

And from what you have written, you are already fully aware that he needs to "grow a backbone." (More. He needs to grow some balls.)

She can’t get on your case unless your husband is blathering things to her as he did when he was 9 !!!!!! He, hon, has got to grow up and shut up !!

Your counselor is correct. And the language for this when she gets going is, "Mother, if you continue, we will have to leave." "Mother, if those pictures are ever, EVER out again, we will not be here for years. This is entirely inappropriate."

And then, sweetie, he must indeed grow some balls, and tell her, "Mom, I’m sorry. You have stepped out of bounds. We are leaving now. Give us a call when you feel better."

And then, honey, he gathers you up by the arm, and the two of you simply walk out to your car, and drive away.

Understand that this is even more difficult if she has no man in her life…. she’s using him as the man in her life. Problem is, you are his priority, not she.

She’ll be just stunned. She has wiped his little butt since he was a child, and she is now wiping his face in it. He, nor you can ever reason with her, your best hope is simply to train her, that there are indeed boundaries. And when she crosses them, you leave. He gave her fair warning.

From all that you have said here, she is an angry, prying lady, resentful and vindictive. NO classy mom EVER puts out those pictures for a new wife to see: NO classy mother interferes with her adult son’s marriage.

The lady is only trainable, I promise. She will NEVER understand just how inappropriate her words and actions are… not ever.
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teacher/counselor 26 years.

Had the MIL from hell, and this is exactly what he finally had to do. It worked. We left a restaurant and took a taxi home. She NEVER did that again, I promise. Never!!!!